Ocean Hermit – sailing, solitude and stories

My plans to retrace Captain Cook's unfinished voyage have been postponed a year while I work on the next Marine Diesel Basics book and get my new boat SV Oceandrifter ready for sea.

* Consider others as you pursue your dreams

In response to the article Achieving Personal Success, Michael Litzkow sent me this welcome caveat: “The story is inspiring, and your description of the “Triangle of Fire” is very helpful.  However, I would like to suggest one additional consideration which comes out of my own experience at setting and achieving goals. The suggestion is to consider what “collateral damage” might come from pursuing your personal goal before proceeding.  For example, if you have a life partner or children or even colleagues depending on you, then it’s possible you could achieve your goal, but still not end up with a good feeling about yourself and a positive result in the larger sense, if in the course of pursuing you goal you shortchange or otherwise hurt people who are important in your life.  In my own life, I had a goal of acquiring all the skills necessary to live on a sailboat and sail the Caribbean in my retirement.  However, as my wife began learning skills with me, she discovered that living on a sailboat is not a goal she wants to pursue. This forced me to make some very hard personal choices based on what is most important to me.  In my case I decided that my commitment to my marriage is more important than my dream of living on a sailboat.  This caused some re-setting of my personal goals which still include some “serious” sailing, but have been modified to fit my values which include loyalty to my wife.
Now when I think about setting and achieving goals, I give some consideration to what “collateral damage” might result before proceeding too far.”
Used by permission of Mike Litzkow

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This entry was posted on January 3, 2010 by in Life Skills and tagged , , .
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